The Positive Side of Divorce
No matter the circumstances of a divorce, the people involved will always experience some form of turmoil – whether it’s emotional, personal, or otherwise. After all, people go into their marriage with the hope that their relationship will continue to stay strong for the remainder of their lives. However, maintaining a relationship is difficult, and in some cases, problems can occur that simply make it impossible for the marriage to continue with a sense of comfort, and trust. Unfortunately, when married spouses are forced to consider the potential for single life, they can face several concerns, about how they’re going to ensure financial stability alone, and how they will regain their confidence.
Of course, that isn’t to say that divorce is always a completely negative process. If you find yourself in a position where you simply cannot find happiness in your marriage, then a divorce may help you to retake control of your life and find the future that works for you. Though it’s easy to get lost in the heartache surrounding the end of a relationship, it can also be important to draw attention to the potential positives that can come from divorce and the sense of freedom that comes with extracting yourself from a toxic situation.
In some situations, when a marriage ends, the restrictions that have prevented a person from seeking a happier life crumble away with it. After all, if your relationship has made you unhappy, stressed, or even depressed, then getting out of that situation is the first step to healing, and discovering a more fulfilled version of yourself. Mr. Darren Shapiro often finds that his clients move on to live more peaceful lives after their divorce is completed – even though the initial feelings of filing that paperwork can be distressing. If a relationship cannot work, then both sides need closure if they want to move on with their lives. While each might miss the other from time to time, they will also gain the freedom that allows them to open up a new chapter of their lives.
Escaping a conflict-rich relationship can be particularly important for spouses who are exposed to regular abuse. For these people, divorce finally allows them to escape a horrific situation and discover a new life. However, even if you didn’t experience abuse in your marriage, it’s important to remember that no one should be forced to live a life that’s rife with unhappiness. Sometimes relationships simply don’t work – and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. You may even find that your divorce allows you to meet the person that you were truly meant to be with – or explore other, more fulfilling relationships.
One very important aspect to be aware of when you are considering divorce is that breaking apart a marriage doesn’t necessarily doom your children to development issues. Mr. Darren M. Shapiro frequently finds that his clients are concerned about the impact that their divorce will have on their children. However, the truth is that although divorce can be hard on all the members of a family dynamic, it can also help your children to understand that life doesn’t always go according to plan, and sometimes people need to make changes to find happiness. While divorce will always be a complicated process, it can be much better than the alternative – exposing your child to a high-conflict relationship. Usually, as Psychology Today outlines, the negative impact of a divorce can be minimized with the use of routines, reassurance, and rituals.
In some cases, parents may be able to further reduce the negative impact of divorce by staying away from high-conflict scenarios like litigation. For example, those who feel that they might be able to make the most of a negotiation-friendly solution might consider the process of mediation. Through mediation, parents and ex-spouses can discuss their needs in a safe and supportive environment with an objective mediator. Mr. Shapiro frequently recommends mediation to his clients when they want to attempt to maintain positive relationships with their ex-spouse, or simply avoid the negativity inherently present in litigation. Though this solution won’t work for everyone, it can be a positive option for many individuals who want to reduce the confrontational aspects of ending their marriage.
Additionally, it’s worth noting that financial concerns can represent a huge issue for people considering divorce. Many people are concerned that they won’t be able to maintain a comfortable lifestyle when they separate from their spouses. However, it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t feel trapped within an unhappy marriage simply because you’re concerned about money. While divorce can be an expensive process, there are ways that you can minimize your expenditure. For instance, mediation is typically less expensive than litigation, and during the course of your divorce, you may be able to protect yourself from future financial disruption.
If children are involved in a divorce procedure, then the New York Courts will place their interests first when making decisions regarding support and maintenance. However, in most situations, they will do their best to ensure that no spouse is destitute as a result of a separation. If you are considered the “less-monied” spouse, then you may be able to access support or maintenance. What’s more, if you take on primary custody of the children, you could also receive child support payments too. If you are the more monied spouse in a relationship, then you can stop your ex-spouse from receiving an inheritance, or gaining access to future assets you might receive following the completion of the divorce. Crucially, the payments offered to any person in a divorce will center around several factors, as Mr. Shapiro reminds his clients, though there are guidelines in place under the New York law since 2016.
Mr. Shapiro recognizes that divorce is always a complex process – but that doesn’t mean there can’t be positive aspects to it. If you believe that you could benefit from divorce, please contact our principal, Mr. Darren M. Shapiro at your earliest convenience for a free thirty-minute consultation. Our office litigates, negotiates, mediates or practices collaborative law depending on the specifics of each individual matter. You can call at
